It's sad to say.. but I barely have any IRL friends. I used to have a lot of them.. but half of them were fake bitches and the other half we drifted apart. It's so hard to meet new friends these days. And I don't talk with my 2 older sisters anymore.. the only family member that really cares about me and that really loves me is my mom. I hate life sometimes :(
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I'm in an early grad program and I feel like I've lost all my old friends too. I don't really hang out with many people anymore either. That's why I'm on tengaged so much again. I basically only hang out with my girlfriend, she keeps me happy :)
I've learned it is just life. Growing up in school you are surrounded by family,friends,classmates, etc. every day of your life. You are forced to be around these people. But since I've been on my own in college a little with freedom to do whatever most of the time, I've learned it can be lonely. I quickly learned that it was going to be impossible to keep up with everyone I wanted and I'd try my best to keep up even though it sucks seeing some old friends move along and not be there with them. You'll eventually meet new friends and people wherever life takes you as long as you try. Try as in the sense of not repeating a mundane schedule of going to work and coming straight back to your house and repeating. But maybe try going out with coworkers or going to a local bar or even getting involved in the community in some program. They may not be ideal things to do but they could spark something else. Idk now I'm just rambling but I just wanted to let you know I get 100% where you are coming from and it sucks but hang in there because it will get better :)
This is something which happened to me while I was at college. Pretty much the same thing. I was very alone, I had acquaintances but I had no actual friends. And I figured I would always be alone. Then a few things happened. One was me sitting alone at lunch and someone spotted me and invited me to their group. And the other thing was bumping into my childhood friend who I had drifted away from as he was randomly walking down the street; Catch_a_falling_star.
I've drifted from that group I started to regularly eat lunch with in college but when I went to University, I met some friends who are pretty much friends for life. We always chat even though we only see each other like twice a year.
So I would say to you, Vanili, that you may feel alone now and you've probably felt lonely for a long time but you never know, your best friend could be yet to appear in your life. :)
What? I'm so shocked. You are one of the most genuine ans sweetest people I ever met. If no one sees that you don't need them. Don't ever change who you are because you are simply amazing and I love you vanili
But do you now what....there is a difference between being ALONE and being LONELY. You may find you're pretty much alone besides your mum, but if you have ditched fake friends, you haven't lost anything. Sometimes one feels lonelier around fake friends than when one is actually alone. :)
I am also with sjsoccer88 - after work people always seem to be doing something and ask if I want to come along. I never feel like it because I'm tired or don't know them, but that is so stupid. I should get to know them and motivate myself to find friends.
Its the same thing with any kind of relationship. You can't go out looking, but you have got to be physically in proximity to people to make friends. :)
Cool words Yoshitomi! I had the same situation, haha. And it is important to always be positive and believe the best is yet to come. Wake up feeling like something amazing could happen anytime.
Just came back home from college and had to say goodbye to so many amazing friends there. It's not hard for me to make friends but right now I'm in a friend deficit and feel this blog
It was certainly different for me to leave all of my friends for college, so I get where you are coming from. Try pushing yourself a little out of your comfort zone and you truly never know what can happen! I made a couple awesome relationships by doing so this year! Stay positive. :)