My boyfriend and I just had 2 GREAT days together. We did the Color Vibe 5k on the 12 and then on the 14, we celebrated his birthday together. We had alot of fun together. However, with my busy schedule this week and next week, I feel like things are changing. I actually felt this towards the end of last week. My family/friends don't really care for the guy and everyone thinks I can do so much better. Well, I went to my aunt's family reunion on Saturday and my sister mentions a cute, single, guy to me. This guy is like 6'5 tall, compared to my boyfriend and has a decent job as he's a teacher. Anyway, I went to my dad's church yesterday and I saw him (Yes, he's VERY cute). After church, my niece wanted me to go meet her Bible school teacher (he taught her last week when they had VBS). Anyway, I told her no. I don't know why I froze up, but I did. Anyway, all I can think about now is that guy and not my boyfriend. In fact, we're hardly talking again. I mean we're talking, but not like we were. Another thing that bothers me about my boyfriend is that he RE-ADDED someone on Facebook and that bothers me, here's why:
Apparently he was thinking about dating this girl, that was until we went to Erie to do a 5k and things changed between us. Then I guess she found out we were together and then said some not so nice things about me. So either she unfriended him or vice versa. Anyway, they are friends on FB once again and I haven't said anything to him about that. I honestly don't know what to do right now. I was so happy with him and now I'm questioning so many things, especially when I don't know when I'll see him again. However, I AM planning on going back to my dad's church on Sunday and hopefully meet guy #2 and see what happens there. One thing my sister told me was if things happen with me and guy #2 that maybe we could double date with them. That's the FIRST time she ever mentioned about going on a double date with me.
I've even thought about contacting guy #2 on FB, but I've decided to just wait that out. I don't want to possibly push him away if there could be something there. I just need to get out of my comfort zone and just talk to him. I think my biggest fear is rejection, since I've delt with it so much.
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Well as long as guy #1 knows about guy #2 beforehand...
Tbh it sounds like you are just worried about being rejected (mainly cuz of the re-add) & to avoid it you are trying to do it first. Focus on what you're really looking for :) & gl
Anas I'm not telling my boyfriend (guy 1) about guy 2. There's nothing between guy 2 and me. I haven't even talked to him yet. I wanted to yesterday when my niece wanted me to meet him, but I froze up.
shabootyquiqui3 I've had issues with my boyfriend before and I thought we were past that, but I don't think we are. It's like someone lit a light under us and now it's being blown out. We're not even talking like we used to and he knows that. He said something to me last night that sounded like a break up and when I asked him about it, he told me no. But, in a way I want him to. The distance, communication, and my very busy schedule this week and next week is getting in the way. Plus he doesn't know my family/friends don't like him.
As far as guy #2 goes, IF I do end up talking to him on Sunday and maybe hang out with him, he's very local and my family already likes him. So it won't be an issue.
i know you've had your ups and downs with your boyfriend. and i've been in similar situations when new people will walk into your life and question things. it's tough but you have to follow your heart and do what will make you happy. as people have told me before you can't be a prisoner to comfort (staying with what you know). you should definitely talk to the new guy and maybe that will give you more clarity on what you need in your life right now - whether it's staying with your boyfriend, exploring new things or just being on your own. good luck :)
k4r4k thanks Kara! Right now I'm thinking about someone and it's not my boyfriend. Looking back, I wish I would've talked to guy 2. But there's always this Sunday. I need to get over my fear and just talk to him. Maybe he'll approach me first. I know one thing, he sure is a cutie.
Tbh it sounds like you are just worried about being rejected (mainly cuz of the re-add) & to avoid it you are trying to do it first. Focus on what you're really looking for :) & gl