So it's been quite a while since i was really active on here so like idk if any of my friends really still use this website but i've kinda written out my coming out journey on here since the beginning so I feel its only appropriate to continue that?
So back about two months ago I went out to lunch with my siblings (13 and 21) and I told them I am gay. They took it so well. I've never been extremely close to them however my since then, we are all so much closer. They are both also apart of the LGBT community so lol 3 for 3 bitches.
So then a little less than a month ago my dad took a chance and messaged me over facebook because he had been having suspicions and he basically gave me permission to come out to him. This really helped prompt me because I wasn't sure when or how i'd tell him. I had a really good phone call with him where he expressed that he isn't the most tolerant or accepting of the LGBT community but he is learning and starting to understand. This was really big for him and it honestly makes me really happy.
So the biggest step now was telling my mom. She is the one person I knew i needed to tell before i went public because she's the one who has the hardest time understanding the LGBT community, which is valid for a straight person i guess but still.
So i went to my grandmas today and I was going to just say something at dinner but my sibling had a friend over so i decided that wouldn't be the best time, but then suddenly they left and my grandparents went to their neighbors so it just left me and my parents. I had my dad turn the TV off and I told my mom.
She asked me why I thought I was gay and I told her basically how i've always felt this way and its how I was born and there really isn't anything that can change that. She basically told me that she is going to do her own research and try to understand and that she loves and accepts me and honestly thats all I can ask of her because I know how hard it must be for her as a mother.
So we are able to talk for a bit and then my grandparents come back. My grandma rambles for about an hour about whatever and then she started talking about some girl. She said "Michael, maybe you would want to try to be with her" and i was like "Um, nah.." and then she said "Well, you may want to look at her first" and so i said "Um, this is a good segway I guess..." So i told her and my grandpa (mom's step-dad).
My grandma had a lot of questions based on religion and whether or not I still believe in jesus. While my answers weren't what she wanted to hear, I was open and honest. My grandpa asked me questions about whether college affected my thinking about church and being gay.
Eventually, my grandparents told me that they still love me and they accept me. They told me they would pray for me, not that i wouldn't be gay, but that I would have a relationship with jesus. While I don't care for that, I know they want what is best for me and that's all I can really ask for.
So now with coming out day coming up, I plan to publicly come out in about a weeks time. This has been a long journey for me. I am so thankful to everyone who has supported me on this journey. Obviously coming out is a life long journey, but the hardest parts are almost over.
King so happy for u and that they took it as well as they possibly could. It鈥檚 clear that while they don鈥檛 understand it they are going to do their best to accept it and become more knowledgeable about it, which is all you can ask for. 鉂わ笍鉂わ笍
Simba (yes i know you hate it but were kinda og at this point)
I am so proud of you. Your a good person with a heart of gold and i know how hard this has been for you. I am happy that you no longer have to hide who you are. Another step, another part of your journey. #SmileMoreForever
Grats man, yeah my dad pushes religion more on me too so can relate, my mom doesn't really tho as she gets every r/s is different regards. Keep on rocking and glad you have a support system.
