** EDIT: I just want to also put it in here, thanks to a wonderful friend talking me through the benefits and MOSTLY the cons of smoking, I am going to quit this Friday after I get paid. I'm going to quit by patches. For my health and independence. I've quit before. I can quit again for good this time. I'm excited. **
I'm probably not going to do the anon skype game. I planned for it, but I'm too busy. I was going to have a co-host to help me, but as of recent events Johnny & I will not be speaking to each other anymore.
As much of the OC knows, Johnny likes to be very controlling. If you're close with him he tries to control every ASPECT of your life. And people have described it to me as "an abusive relationship,", though to be fair i've never seen it that way. I think he just cares about the people he's close with enough to try to get into their lives.
A few months ago, I sent a text message to Michael ( totallymicheal) about me being outside on a break smoking, and this lady stalking me. I accidentally sent it to Johnny without taking the smoking part out, and tried to play it off as a joke. Apparently, it didn't work. He's been annoyed about this for months now (this happened in June) so I finally just admitted to him that I smoke, so now he wants nothing to do with me.
Though, how COULD I tell him I smoked? When he first met me I was a smoker, and I had successfully quit because of my mom and grandmothers medical problems. I started back for awhile, then quit again. I think I started back sometime early this year? And I want to thank IamPaxton, Lemonface, Donaam & Zeptis for keeping this a secret. But now I realize, why should my BEST FRIEND not want to be best friends with me anymore because of a life decision I make? Does that mean he's not really my friend to begin with? Why can't someone just be disappointed in an action you take, not try to CONTROL your action to what they believe and they want. I'm SHAY, I have my own personal beliefs and wants. Why do I have to bend myself to make someone else happy?
I really shouldn't. The other reason I was given was because I brag a lot about being "good with computers," and because "I got top 3% in writing on my GED.". I guess compared to Johnny's accomplishments this is very short and not impressive, but compared to my shortcomings of dropping out of highschool, my parents, adoption, and etc, I think that and me starting college this Fall are great accomplishments of mine, and I think everyone deserves to be proud of something in their life. No matter how small it is to "successful" people like Johnny.
Anyway, I wanted to rant, and I wanted to confess. I guess this is the end of a wonderful 5 year friendship and I knew this day would eventually come, because Johnny & I come from different backgrounds and can't understand that about each other. How he can be so obsessed with being "successful, and having lots of money" and not care about being happy, and how I can "be so unsuccessful, but be happy and content with what I have accomplished". It's just two different priorities.
Thanks for reading if anyone even reads this at all.
I think this is the first time I'd ever plussed one of your blogs...he's pathetic if this is over smoking. People who don't smoke, don't understand how hard the habit is to give up, and no one cane force you to give it up, you can only quit when you're in the mindset to quit. You'd think someone as smart as Johnny supposedly is, would know this. Anyway, I'm sure you guys will be inseparable again, in about a week.
Yaxha I thought that too, and when he finally decided to talk to me after being mad at me for over a week, I told him I smoked, and now wants nothing to do with me.
ShayyBayy I dislike smoking because I lost my first real grandfather figure to it (both my real granddads died before I was born and my grandma's husband isn't much of a grandparent).
He smoked several packs a day when he was younger but he quit for 40 YEARS, yet the smoking still got him. He died from lung cancer even though he was so fit and healthy and seeing him deteriorate crushed me.
That is why -I- would never smoke.
HOWEVER one of my best friends smokes several packs a day. She's still one of my best friends and I respect her regardless. She's at least tried (and failed) to quit. The key thing is that she said to me that she would never let me smoke. She never offered me a cigarette and never gave me one when I jokingly asked.
I've had friends who have tried to get me to smoke, drink, go clubbing, disrespect my parents and other things I disagree with. So I don't judge her based on that one thing.
Aquamarine? You should not be so close-minded or else you'll miss out on some amazing people and end up all alone.
I think this is a lie but if its real then you gonna have to decide whats more important, keeping a friend you had for 5 years or keeping your smoking addiction......
People need to understand smoking is an addiction and its super hard to quit and takes time. Yes it is a nasty habit, but it doesn't take away the fact that you're a good person. I think that person is being a little ridiculous but to each their own, I'm not one to judge.
1. if he stop being your friend because u smoke then yall was never friends
2. As long as you can support your habit dont worry about what people are saying about u
3. Its about damn time you finally came to your senses so sad it was over smoking shayyBayy
Life to short to worry about if your friends are going to accept you or not
what the hell happened.. I came back seeing this...
I may not understand both of your guys Perspective but all i can say it's your decision that's all.
There is no fucking pros to smoking what the fuck that person's killing you by telling you that what the fuck. Fuck the smoking. Wanna die early? Do I sound like a ass? That's because that's the only way I'll drill into your head. My aunt died at like 38 and started smoking at like 20. SOME can smoke all their lives and be fine- or should I say fine as in can still live but breath like a dying pig? STOP SMOKING.
SHAYYBAYYAQUAMARINE HONESTLY I LIKE YOU BOTH BUT THIS IS DUMB LIKE WHY SHOULDNT YOU BE ABLE TO SMOKE IT'S NOT LIKE HE'S DATING YOU, YOU'RE NOT SMOKING INTO HIS FACE LIKE IF YOURE SMOKING INTO HIS FACE I GET IT.........
surprisingly, smoking cigerettes can be used to help treat various things like
1. schizophrenia
2 reduce risks of canker sores
3. Ironically some forms of cancer.
now these benefits are GREATLY outweighed by the negative effects, but they aren't non-existent.
Utsumi Everything has positives but anything taken excessively becomes a negative. Even water and fruit. And smoking already has many many negatives compared to the positives.
But Dustin24688642, do you know what doesn't help someone stop?
Yelling at them with the stuff which is WRITTEN ON EVERY CIGARETTE BOX.
Every smoker KNOWS it's bad. Makes your teeth yellow, ruins your lungs, can cause cancer, etc etc.
In mine and your case, we've personally been affected by the effects of smoking. But yelling at someone does nothing. I bet it didn't even make you feel good, right?
I honestly cant believe people who smoke...
like, Its just disgusting to inhale polluted nicotine and air into your lungs, literally killing yourself with every breath..
